Love Triangles
Love is a free flowing energy that is housed in the Universe;
love is available for any strong-hearted individual who has the intestinal
fortitude to take a dive into its never-ending pool! Those who take the plunge
either swim to victory or sink to the bottom like the titanic going down for
the second time around!
The problem with most people is pretty basic, they claim
to want and desire love, but very few rarely know exactly what that means or
how to obtain it, and those who do acquire it, often fear loosing it so much
that they strangle the life right out of their relationship.
The definition of love is different for everyone; no two
people on the planet will ever share the same definition or point of view when
it comes to love, why you may ask? The main reason is that as human beings we
attach our own feelings to the energy, which is love, thus defining and
personalizing the definition to suit our own needs, and no two people share
the exact same feeling or emotion, our feelings and emotions are unique unto
our own incarnation and the manner in which we deal with our lovers will
determine the lessons in love that we have to learn the next time around!
The interesting thing that I have found in dealing with
my clients over the years is the choices that are made when choosing a
partner, I would say that 80% of the individuals who have contacted me in
reference to another person meddling or interfering in their relationship has
played a role in putting that person in between them and the one that they
love, maybe not directly, but indirectly yes, by choosing a partner who is
emotionally unavailable or otherwise attached to someone else, which is the
exact way that most love triangles are formed to begin with.
Love triangles like it or not often form some pretty
unsightly situations and result in forming some of the most unpleasant lessons
that we have to learn, and as a result we no longer just share the karma that
is created with our mate of choice, but we share karma with our third wheel as
well, so it is necessary to try and settle the karma in a positive manner if
we are ever going to be able to partake in our relationship 100% and feel good
about doing it.
I would say that a positive approach to finding a
resolution starts with disengaging from the situation and taking a step back
and assessing all of the elements and players involved, and start by asking
yourself some pretty honest and clear questions.
1: Am I attracted to this individual because he or she happens to be emotionally unavailable and cannot commit to a relationship with me 100%?
2: Is it the person that I love or the chase?
3: If the other individual weren’t involved would
I still want him or her on the same level?
4: Do I feel love in my heart or is it simply lust in
my loins?
5: If this individual commits to me, am I ready to
reciprocate the commitment?
6: Am I motivated by need or greed?
7: My mate was already committed to someone else prior
to our involvement, did I pursue him or her or did he/she pursue me?
If you knowingly go after someone who is already involved
in a relationship you may be setting yourself up for a life filled with
misery, everybody handles love and their commitments differently and what may
seem like a disaster waiting to happen to you may seem like heaven to them and
in most cases the difficulties that arise from your actions will cancel out
the few stolen moments of pleasure that you may experience while in their
company, it is far better to be patient and allow the relationship to end of
its own accord than it is to involve yourself in a situation that you will
have little or no control over.
Love triangles are often formed without the consent of
all parties involved and if this is the case where you are concerned and if
your mate was deceptive then you have every right to defend your honor and
your feelings, if you committed yourself in good faith without prior knowledge
of your mate's involvement with another, it is your mate who will rack up the
negative karma, however once you have knowledge of the deceptiveness you must
handle yourself accordingly to insure that you will free yourself from any
karmic responsibility or repercussions!
I hope this article is informative and I hope that it
gives you something to consider and to think about, if I can be of assistance
to you in any way please do not hesitate to contact me.
Blessed be, Phelan
