Fear
Fear is a very powerful emotion that can either hold
you back or compel you to do things that you never thought possible.
The majority of the clients that I have worked with for the most
part were all coming from a place of fear, and in the case of love
spells my services are often sought when someone has lost or is on
the verge of losing the one that they love.
Fear is a normal part of life and can be just
as healthy as unhealthy, a good example of a healthy fear, is the
fear that a pedestrian feels just before crossing a busy highway,
the fear of the rushing automobiles compel the pedestrian to look
both ways and to refrain from taking unnecessary risks while crossing
the street, that is unless they have a death wish, a good example of
an unhealthy fear is the constant worrying about the impending
illness or death of a loved one, none of us goes before our time,
however, our constant obsession with our health or death may speed
along the process and bring the impending events into manifestation
much sooner than they would have manifested.
Fear more often than not is a very negative
emotion, and negative energy will manifest faster than positive,
think about it, it takes a great deal more energy to do something of
a positive nature than it takes to do something negative, just look
at the recent events in New Orleans, Texas and Florida, not to
mention the ongoing war that is being waged against a country that
no doubt has more innocent people than guilty, thousands and
thousands of young innocent people and frail older people have died
and for what? War is nothing but the senseless acts of inhumanity
and will no doubt leave an imprint behind us for generations to
come.
What you fear will find you, to fear is to draw
negative energy to yourself, fear the loss of a loved one, fear the
loss of a relationship, fear and project the uncertainty that the
one that you love may never come back, you may as well seal your
fate, because that is exactly what you are doing!
Our fears will manifest a thousand and one
times faster over that in which we believe in, fear is stronger than
faith, if you were to compare the two and label them, fear would be
the equivalent of the Devil and faith the equivalent of God and in
today’s world the Christians are so busy spewing venom and
worrying about advancing their own political agenda that they have
lost sight of their spiritual connectiveness to God and have given
themselves over to Lucifer himself!
Fear is powerful and can leave you emotionally
crippled, paralyzing your ability to move forward in life and
preventing you from reaching your life goals. Fear is often a
symptom that is carried over from a past life; I recall a client
that I worked with back in 1993, after years of working as a scuba
diving instructor she suddenly developed a fear of it, as it turned
out her fear manifested around the same time of year and age that
she was when she drowned in a past life, she told me that when she
would attempt to dive that she would get a vision of her struggling
franticly in the water, her heart would race and her breathing would
grow increasingly shallow, and she would get an overwhelmingly
feeling of loosing consciousness, her fear got so bad that in fact
she quit her job.
The good news is that once the problem was
identified she was able to face and overcome her fear, and she was
able to return to her job as a scuba instructor, the most
interesting part for me is her choice of careers, drowning and her
fear of water was certainly one of her many life lessons, and my
feeling is that her feet was placed upon that path in this lifetime
so that she could face and deal with her fear once and for all.
Growing up and listening to the adults around
me, I realized at a young age that most of my elders lived their
lives out of fear, for God sakes, living in my Grandparents' house
was like living in Fort Knox, in every room there were at least one
gun rack on the wall that held a variety of shotguns and rifles, my
grandfather who wore overalls carried a handgun in his pocket, as
did my grandmother who wore granny gowns with big pockets and you
can bet that she was packing a nickel-plated 32 at all times, in
fact most of the women in my family carried a handgun, I guess that
explains my loaded broomstick. (lol)
My grandmother was obsessed with making sure
that the windows and doors were secure, year-round the windows were
nailed-shut with eight-inch nails that resembled railroad spikes and
at dusk the doors were locked, bolted shut for the night! I often
wondered why my Mother and my Aunts were always so paranoid, looking
back I now understand why, they were a product of their upbringing,
the funny thing though was prior to my Mother and I moving into my
grandparents' home so that we could help take care of them our front
door was often left unlocked and even open at night and it was not
at all uncommon to find the windows wide open in the spring and
summer and partially cracked in the winter!
Fear is a curse that is often handed down from
one generation to the next and unless steps are taken to break free,
a negative life pattern develops leaving its victim constantly
struggling and rarely succeeding in life and thus the legacy
continues and the same crippling fear is handed down to those who
follow and the cycle of self-loathing and self-denial continues!
Fear often manifests itself in our
relationships, worrying and wondering constantly about whether or
not we are good enough to be loved by the one that we love, worrying
about our mates cheating on us or the constant worry that we will
never find our perfect partner and that will end up dying alone, and if
you constantly obsess over those things every one of them will come
true, you are in control of your life, where you end up is
absolutely up to you, you can have all that you desire in life and
then some if you can only let go of the fear that is holding you
back!
Last year (2004), I had a client that came to
me, he had been married for about four years, he and his wife had
two children together, both girls, he worked as a plant manager for
an electronics company and his wife sold on ebay and stayed at home
with the kids who went to school during the day.
Their marriage had always been perfect, both of
them professed that they were soul mates; neither of them had ever
cheated or given one another reason to doubt their faithfulness
until March of 2004 when my client became suspicious that his wife
was having an affair, his feelings were so strong that he began to
leave work to check up on her and of course he would never find
anything, she would always be where she was supposed to be, but, his
feelings were so compelling that his paranoia eventually lead to the
loss of his job and the loss of his marriage, the strain became so
great that his wife eventually filed for an order of protection, he
was jailed more than three times in 2004, prior to this he had no
arrests or convictions of any kind on his record.
I worked with him for a little more than three
months, we did a series of past life regressions and counseling
sessions, we found that his problem was not related in any way to a
past life, it was in fact a remanifestation of his own fears that he
had developed in early childhood, his mother left his father when
she caught him in bed with another woman, and because times were hard
back then she left both of her children (twins) as well, leaving
them with an abusive father who died when they were six, leading them
down an endless path of foster homes, my client had buried the hurt
and pain of loosing both his mother and his father and being bounced
from one foster home to another, he eventually was separated from his
twin sister and has never laid eyes on her again!
The fear that he felt from early childhood
suddenly washed over him again on March 3rd, 2004 and his
life started replaying right before his eyes just as if he had
turned on a video player, unfortunately everything got so twisted
and tangled in his mind that he could not separate the past from the
present and acting out of fear of losing the ones that he loved, he
managed to destroy everything that he and his wife had built
together over the years.
Fear is not meant to be buried, it is meant to
be utilized as a learning tool, if you bottle up those feelings of
fear sooner or later just as my client above did, you will come face
to face with that in which you fear and if you are not strong enough
it may destroy you and everything that you love!
The fear of losing a loved one will at times
become so strong that it compels us to hold onto what we have as
tight as we can, and when you are dealing with a relationship you can
hold on so tightly that you will strangle the life right out of it, and
end up walking away alone, do not allow this to happen to you, face
your fears, if you are separated from the one that you love, work on
yourself during the separation so that you can heal emotionally,
make yourself whole, allow your heart to release the pain, stop
holding onto the memories of hurt!
The bottom line is that life is often filled with painful lessons, the difference is made by how we choose to handle those lessons, do we choose to learn from our strife or do we choose to allow our pain and our hurt to manifest into regret? Regret of what we may miss out on, if we continuously cling to the fear that has dictated and determined the flow of our lives, life is a mystery that reveals itself unto us with each step that we take, do not allow your fear to take you down the wrong path, embrace and love life, rejoice in the good times and acknowledge that there are times when sorrow must fill our hearts, but mourn not your losses, for nothing is ever really lost and all can be reclaimed, all it takes is a belief in self, the Universe and the Godhead!
Blessed be, Phelan
Fear
